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As widely discussed by privacy advocates and blogs, Facebook recently changed some of its privacy settings. Users are no longer able to limit the viewing of their profile photos, home towns, and friends lists to only approved friends. Those are all public now by default. Moreover, Facebook’s new default settings “recommend” that dynamic content such as status messages and photos be made public. While the blogosphere still closely scrutinizes these changes and is aghast at Mark Zuckerberg’s ‘privacy is over’ claims made at the Crunchies awards (he didn’t actually say it verbatim but his statements more or less implied it), I have to admit I was surprised that all this stirred such an uproar. Facebook is only reacting to a larger social trend as it strives to become an asymmetrical and therefore more growth-enabled network (or communications platform) – like Twitter. Privacy, at least a more traditional notion thereof, is the collateral damage of this strategic agenda. With the value of reciprocity (narrowcasting) succumbing to the prospect of exponentiality (broadcasting), privacy is no longer commercially exploitable. “No one makes money off of creating private communities in an era of ‘free,’” writes social networking researcher Danah Boyd in a blog post in which she otherwise harshly criticizes Facebook’s move. The age of privacy as we know it might be over indeed. Is it worth fighting for?
Privacy (from the Latin ‘privatus,’ according to Wikipedia: “separated from the rest, deprived of something, especially office, participation in the government”), the “right to be let alone,” is considered a human right in most parts of the world, in spite of all cultural relativism. Historically speaking, privacy has undergone a remarkable evolution. Aristotle distinguished between the public sphere of politics and political activity, the polis, and the private or domestic sphere of the family, the oaks. If a citizen of Athens was a private man, then it meant he was stripped of any political office and therefore considered “inferior.” Later, in the enlightened civil societies of Europe, however, privacy became a hallmark of the bourgeoisie, a hard-earned privilege that marked the delineation between upper and working classes. The latter had work – if they were fortunate – the former “had a life,” because they could afford it. This life tended to be private, by definition. In the emerging information economies of the 20th century, various theories described privacy as control over information about oneself (Parent, 1983), while others defended it as a broader concept crucial for human dignity (Bloustein, 1964), or emphasized the social aspect of it with regards to enabling intimacy (Gerstein, 1978; Inness, 1992).
Throughout their historical mutations, the public and private spheres needed one another like yin and yang. Having a life was a private act, but only if it was publicly earned and respected. This dialectic relationship will always remain. There is no privacy without publicy and vice versa. And yet, while privacy may never go away as a philosophical counterweight to publicy, today it is publicy that counts as the new privilege of the digital upper class. Privacy has been marginalized to the fringes of a society whose modus operandi is based on the very public mechanisms of social sharing. In the digital era, a private life does not exist. Google ergo sum.
The search engine’s recent public stance against the Chinese government, threatening to shut down all its China operations after Gmail accounts of Chinese activists had been hacked, highlights this new power structure and the evolving value of privacy in our ever-connected world. When the privacy of Google’s users was violated, the company decided to respond with a public statement, mounting public pressure to press on an essentially private matter. Good for a company that does not want be evil, many people applauded, but it bore a certain irony that Google acted as de facto digital state with its own foreign policy. Isn’t Google, after all, built on the very principle of making private data public? Isn’t it because of Google’s mission “to organize the world’s information and make it universally accessible and useful” that we have come to terms with the fact that our online lives and afterlives will never be private again and will be perpetually archived in the very public cloud?
In the case of Google vs. China, what was bemoaned as the loss of privacy was in fact the lack of publicy. Privacy is the most precious asset in more or less closed societies in which trust is a scarce resource and true publics don’t exist. But as we live our lives in the openness of the web, isn’t it publicy that we need to enable and protect? An ideal publicy that is so transparent and democratic that it doesn’t need privacy as refuge?
It’s complicated. Stowe Boyd has declared this to be the “Decade of Publicy,” in which he expects “the superimposition of publicy on top of, and partly obscuring, privacy:”
“Publicy says that each self exists in a particular social context, and all such contracts are independent. (…) It’s as if we are gaining the ability to see into the ultraviolet and infrared ends of the social spectrum when we are online, and in some contexts we are dropping out yellows or reds. To those tied to the visible color spectrum we are habituated to, this new sort of vision will be 'irreal.' But ultraviolet has always existed: we just couldn't see it before. (…) This will be a fracturing of the premises of privacy, and a slow rejection of the metaphors of shared space. The principles of publicy are derived from the intersection of infinite publics and our shared experience of time online, through media like Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr. The innate capability we have to shift in a heartbeat from a given public, and our corresponding persona, to another, is now being accelerated by streaming social tools. This will be the decade when publicy displaces privacy, online and off.”
As we struggle to maintain the traditional, monolithic privacy-publicy dichotomy, perhaps we must start using a different terminology altogether and embrace a new concept: sociality. In a hyper-individualized society, sociality is becoming the main object of desire for individuals. Or as Markus Albers puts it in his forthcoming book about what he coins the Meconomy:
“The Meconomy does not entail a purely egoistic philosophy. On the contrary, it promotes a new culture of empathy and social engagement. As we increasingly decide for ourselves how, where, and with whom we work, the search for meaning gains more importance. The trend to combine economical with social engagement grows stronger. We want to do good, be happy, and make money. In the old patriarchal, hierarchical, and inflexible working world, these aims were often mutually exclusive. In the Meconomy, their combination is almost a precondition for success.”
The semantic coincidence is telling. “Me” desires “Meaning.” As much as publicy needs privacy and vice versa, the “Meconomy” needs the “Meaning Economy” – as its co-evolutionary, symbiotic partner. With meaning emerging as the core currency of all market interactions (because it is ultimately what consumers buy; and friends, fans, and followers buy into), people, organizations, and brands that provide meaning will be the power players of the new Me(aning) Economy – brands like Apple, conferences like TED, contests like the Olympic Games, sport clubs like FC Barcelona, media organizations like NPR, non-profits like UNICEF, and, yes, politicians like Obama.
Sociality may succeed privacy because it is a critical precondition for meaning. To be meaningful, meaning needs to be shared, and sharing can only occur in open social settings. Open social settings, however, by definition, compromise privacy, in all its four textbook modes (solitude, intimacy, anonymity, and reserve). Meaning means giving things a name, making sense of “Black Swans,” unexpected events. In other words: Only an event that becomes a story (which still is the most powerful social media of all times, a true evergreen on the social web!) is meaningful.
Thus, it makes sense to replace the strict privacy-publicy opposition with a multi-layered continuum along progressive levels of sociality. Sociality may turn out to be a much better variable for describing and regulating our digital lives. The question then no longer is how private we can be, but how social we want to be. Instead of privacy seetings, we should speak of sociality settings: The maximum number of friends we want to have; and through which channels we want to ‘socialize’ our contents etc. Privacy understood as sociality (as an enabling and not a defensive right) grants us the ability to control who knows what about us and who has access to us, and thereby allows us to vary our social interactions with different people so that we can control our various social relationships at different levels of intimacy.
This new sociality is most visibly manifest in online social networks. It is worth noting that these not only mirror the mechanisms of offline social interactions but actually provide users with more control over their privacy (or sociality) than they would ever have in the physical world. On Facebook and other networks, you can pick and choose the people you want to meet and share ‘presence’ with; in a restaurant, bar, and other public spaces, you can’t. Exclusivity in the real world needs to be earned, whereas online it is a given.
Bill Thompson pledges we should embrace the new liberties that come with this new radical transparency:
“The enlightenment idea of privacy is breaking apart under the strain of new technologies, social tools and the emergence of the database state. We cannot hold back the tide, but we can use it as an opportunity to rethink what we understand by 'personality,’ how we engage and interact with others and where the boundaries can be put between the public and private. Those of us who are ahead of the curve when it comes to the adoption and use of technologies that undermine the old model of privacy have much to teach those who will come after us, and can offer advice and support to those who might be unhappy to have their movements, eating habits, friendships and patterns of media consumption made available to all. But every Twitterer, Tumblr, Dopplr or Brightkite user is sharing more data with more people than even the FBI under Hoover or the Stasi at the height of its powers could have dreamed of. And we do so willingly, hoping to benefit in unquantifiable ways from this unwarranted – in all senses – disclosure. I'll argue that we are in the vanguard of creating not just new forms of social organisation but new ways of being human.”
All this openly shared user data represents not only an enourmous amount of social capital but also a huge collective leap of faith. Whether the big digital platforms and ecosystems will honor this trust to maintain civic publics or if they will choose to exploit it for (private) economic reasons, at any price, will be one of the defining moments of this young decade and the most impactful decision it will have to make. Control (as the catalyst of privacy) is good, but trust (as the catalyst of sociality) is better. We can afford to lose our privacy, but we will not survive the loss of sociality.
The state of affairs
Andrei Timoshenko - January 18, 2010
The state of affairs described above reads not as the death of privacy, but as its total victory. Everything is private unless we want to share it. My thoughts are my own unless I disclose them to others. My actions cannot be known unless I make them affect other people.
Of course, thoughts never shared and actions never known would provide few benefits to most people most of the time. We are social creatures, not hermits - we thrive on interaction.
But this is where Facebook erred - it confused our choice to usually be open about most things with a state in which we are always open about some things. It missed that the act of filtering what to share (perhaps only temporarily) is as ingrained in our social interactions as the act of sharing. What we do not say is as critical as what we do. Going back to the fundamentals, the world would be a much poorer if everyone had to tell everyone else exactly what they thought, the moment that they thought it.
Such a lack of control over the sharing of one's thoughts would be disastrous for two reasons. First, it would make us out as greater fools than we are and confuse those who we interact with - time and (private) contemplation are needed to make sense of things and separate the wheat from the chaff. Second, it would be a cacophony. Most people, most of the time neither think anything interesting, nor do anything interesting, while each individual only has a limited amount of attention. We choose to go for a solitary walk on the beach instead of going to a bar not only to avoid sharing our presence with others, but to avoid having others share their presence with us. The value of privacy is both in not bothering others and in not being bothered. We each have personal preferences both in the amount of information we want to share and in the amount of information we want shared with us. The two are usually correlated.
In the digital world both things are default, so it can never lead to the end of privacy. What the digital does do, however, is dissociate information from both time and place. Before, we functioned in a world where the statements and actions we chose to share were 'public' only to the people sharing that point in time and space with us, and private from everybody else. Today, information once made digitally public is effectively public to everyone, for ever - it is either broadcasted as such, or is at least preserved to be found.
Thus, what has changed is not the desire or ability to control the sharing of our thoughts and actions. What has changed are the tools to do these things. Instead of time and place, we can actively select the group of individuals we share something with - this is the 'privacy setting' approach and it is as much about choosing who to bother, as it is about identifying who to exclude. The more complete and the more granular this approach is, the better.
The second approach, not really yet implemented, is the social policing of 'privacy'. When we go to a bar, we cannot hide our actions from the 'audience' of those around us. But the 'audience' can also not hide its presence from us. The people who look know that they will be seen as looking. This has to be translated online. With so much of our information accessible by anyone at any time, we must be able to easily discover who looked at our information, when they looked at it, and what they looked at. The fact that the perusal of some particular bit of public information will itself be public information will prevent most of the abuse of the former, as each individual will be motivated to protect their reputation of propriety.
Thanks for your thoughtful
Tim Leberecht - January 19, 2010
Thanks for your thoughtful response, Andrei, you gave me a lot to think about. I don't have much to add to the points I made in my post. I do disagree though with what you're writing here: "Time and (private) contemplation are needed to make sense of things and separate the wheat from the chaff." Really? Why can we not make sense of things instantly? Isn't Twitter doing exactly that? And which miraculous tools do you refer to that enable us to "separate the wheat from the chaff" if we just had more time for contemplation? Would our thoughts, insights, conclusions, decisions be more meaningful, wiser, and better if we had more time to deliberate them? I think this is a nice illusion (and basically the promise of enlightenment and Western-type rationalism). But is there any evidence for it?
I disagree: Social networks kill sociality
Michael - January 22, 2010
Please think about these facts:
- If you would be right, why then do you still disclose e-mail adresses in this blog?
- what do you teach 9 year old children when they start to publish their privacy on the net (Facebook etc.)? To be honest and open and post their real names, their real adresses, photos? I doubt you'll find any parents telling their kids to do this.
This, and the fact that social networks start to openly monetarize private information, will quickly change the network's nature. They are no longer respected as a trusted space. And they will redefine privacy. Privacy will become the "truth about my persona", Sociality will become the show of self administered "public personas", a.k.a aliases, a.k.a avatars.
Michael
Sociality as a 'precondition' for Meaning??
Lisa Cox - January 22, 2010
Thank you Tim for such a thought provoking article. I am interested in the correlations you make between sociality and meaning.
I believe you take the concept of meaning to an unbalanced extreme when making the statement that sociality is a critical precondition for meaning. The implication is that all meaning requires sociality before it can be 'meaningful'. This is true only when meaning is in place to create community. One requirement of community is the embodiment of a *shared* meaning. However, meaning has a vast range of experience that remains in (and will always remain in) the realm of privacy. The emotional connection that creates meaning is at its genesis, a private, individual experience. It is an experience that we sense within our internal world of thought and emotion.
Certainly, meaning can be enhanced and given dimension when shared, moving it from the private realm to the social realm. However, this move to sociality is not a requirement for the creation or the experience of meaning. Many of these types of experiences are firmly placed the private realm. For instance, meaning derived from spirituality, communing with nature and meditation, are just a few examples. I will note that all of these experiences *can* be shared, but its not a requirement to experience their meaning.
Therefore, because meaning will always have a foundational legacy in privacy, I don't believe sociality will ever succeed privacy. After all, we are individuals before we form groups. Our world of private meaning is a significant dimensions to our humanity, and is in place before sociality is created.
Tim, there might be evidence
Kerry - January 24, 2010
Tim, there might be evidence that solitary time can yield important results. One example:
Upon meeting someone that you have met before and finding that you have forgotten their name, you are experiencing the sensation of Knowing Something You Do Not Know. It is just a small example of how there is often information buried in our brains; accessible but requiring a different angle of approach.
Also this terrifying study:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/mind/a...
a classic peer pressure study; how group decisions often steamroll our own better judgement.
What is beautiful about the internet is that it gives people time and space to be rational, WHILE they are 'together'! It's quite amazing. All the enthusiasm of a mob; none of the lynchings :)
In defence of contemplation
Fredrik Stai - April 22, 2010
I think what Kerry brings up is important and something that is often overlooked. We live in a time when speed and immediacy is everything. It's certainly very thrilling to be a part of it, but at the same time I don't think it's a state of mind that is natural (or healthy) for human beings to be in over a long period of time.
We shouldn't get so carried away with where we're going that we loose grasp of the overall picture. I've always wondered why quite a few blogs forget to put a date stamp on the blog posts – it's as if we're so stuck in the now that we've forgotten about the past. It's a bit charming when you come to think about it.
I think there are different modes of thinking, each with their advantages and disadvantages. Immediacy allows for spontaneity and inventiveness, but it is beaten hands down by contemplative thinking when it comes to perspective and juxtaposition.
By the way, great post Tim. Very interesting view on where we might be heading.